You are going to think about him a lot. You’re going to think about him when you order olives on your pizza or when someone says they love Van Morrison or when you see an X-Terra with a Cornell sticker (JUST EXAMPLES), but just because you think about him does not mean you still love him. That applies for the rest of your life. And it is integral for getting over someone. This girl I used to be friends with in high school popped up in my dream last week. I didn’t wake up and think, “Ugh, I wonder if we should have been better friends. Is her best friend pretty? Ugh, she’s probably some successfu-” NO. I woke up and thought, “Huh. Dana. Weird,” and carried on with my day and life.
You will think about him. That is normal, and it does not mean he was the love of your life. Everyone thinks about their ex. Everyone. One of my exes liked my status the other day and I thought to myself, “I wonder if we’d hit it off now.” I also wonder how I would react in a hostage situation – that doesn’t mean I need to seek it out.